DEN-BESTEN, Pamela Dawn (Pammie) (née Duffy)
It’s with total breaking hearts that we want to let all that knew our beautiful Pammie, wife, mum, nana, friend and so much more has sadly passed away on Wednesday May 20th, 2026.
With all our heart we know she has gone to be with her Heavenly Father.
Funeral NoticeWe will gather together to honour the incredible woman she was and her amazing life, share memories, and give her the send off she deserves.
The Celebration of Life for Pammie will also be livestreamed.
To view the livestream, please click here.
So sorry to hear this sad news. Our condolences to you all you will be in our thoughts at this difficult time .
May 26, 2026
Con and Gea VersluisSending so much love to you all.
May 26, 2026
She will continue to live on in her beautiful children and grandchildren.
Big love to you all xDearest Pam. A beautiful cousin to Colin, You radiated such warmth and love for your family and friends. You will be deeply and sorely missed by your darling husband Neil and 4 daughters, Tanya, Maryke, and Anne Marie and Michelle. A truly loved and treasured Nana and friends Flying high with the angels. xxx
May 26, 2026So sad this happened. She and you all are forever in our hearts. So many wonderful and precious memories of our tante Pam. She is missed so much…
May 26, 2026
Sending all our love and hugs over to Aus.
Michael, Debby, Isa & Dex den BestenThe Donoghue Family are just so lost for words.
May 26, 2026
We are thinking of you all at this sad time. Your mum and all of you took us in as family so the memories we have with your beautiful mum will stay with us forever. Love to you all xxxDeepest Sympathy to all the family. Thinking of you all at this sad time . Will miss dropping in to say hello to her at the markets.
May 26, 2026Sending so much love during this heartbreaking time. Pam was such a beautiful soul who touched so many lives with her kindness, warmth, and love. She was the absolute heart of her family.
Rest peacefully Pam. You will be missed more than words can say, but never forgotten ❤️Lots of love to you all.Xxxx
Sharon Dekleva & Co xoxo
May 26, 2026Please accept my condolences and gentle hugs. Thinking of you Yennie xxx
May 26, 2026I didn’t have the pleasure to get to know you well Pam, but your girls and grand kids are a wonderful reflection of the person you must have been. You were always happy and I very much appreciated the dinners you helped cook for us at the cricket club.
May 26, 2026Such terrible news! Thinking of you all during this very devastating time. We offer our sincerest condolences from Giovina & staff at Mavro’s Deli!💜
May 26, 2026Sending my love to you all during this very sad time. Pam was a very generous lady with her time and was always there with her family helping where needed and smiling and laughing with you all. She will be fondly remember by all who knew her.
May 26, 2026Dear Neil & Family, so very sad to learn of Pam’s passing, I have fond memories of working together at Hazelwood House, such a lovely lady, please accept my deepest sympathies.
Elaine Alexander
May 26, 2026To Yennie and Family
May 26, 2026
There are no words to express the grief of this sad loss nor words of comfort to soothe the heartache. May her memories be always in your hearts and mind. XTo Yennie, Jamie and family
I am so sorry for your tragic and heartbreaking loss. I can only imagine what you are all going through at the moment. My thoughts are with you all.
Much love from Nadine x
May 26, 2026Our deepest thoughts and prayers are with you all on this terribly sad news.
May 26, 2026
May you lean on each other through the very difficult time
That no words can express.
You all a surrounded by so many people that love you 🥰
Our arms are wrapped around you all.Deepest condolences to Ann Marie and family on passing of your beautiful mum
May 26, 2026
May God bless you with His peace and comfort during this difficult time. 🙏To Neil and all The Family, Our Condolences to you all, l had the privilege of working with Pam at The Top Pub, she was such a cheerful and lovely person to work with 🙏. Lance and Luisa Oates
May 26, 2026So very sorry to hear this sad news Yennie and family. Our thoughts are with you all and especially your dad at this heartbreaking of times. We will miss seeing her beautiful face at the farmer market and she was a strength for the family.
Rest peacefully Pam. 😔Love to you all ❤️
May 26, 2026Loving thoughts are wth you all as you navigate life without beautiful Pam. Such a
May 26, 2026
dear and loving person who will be SO missed
by everyone.
Our thoughts are wth you all.
Love Anne and little Jeanie XXXXTo dearest Tan & family,
May 26, 2026
I am so saddened to hear of the passing of your beautiful Mum. Pam was one of the most beautiful, kind, caring, gentle ladies I know. Pam touched the hearts of so many people and will be greatly missed.
Sending you all so much love during this very difficult time.
Thinking of the entire family.
Love always Suz, & Stu Plant ( Jones) & family xxxPam you will be so missed ,you were such an amazing lady. Sending our love and thoughts to Neil and family. Love Andrew and Liz Harris . Norm and Johanna Rough
May 27, 2026My beautifull sister in law you will be missed by the fam in Canada
May 27, 2026So very sorry for the loss of you’re beautiful mum.my thoughts are with you.she was a lovely lady.we shared lots of great times together with our Dutch days…Lilian..
May 27, 2026So sorry to hear this sad news.she was a lovely lady. we shared tots of lovely memories with our Dutch days. Thinking of you all. And sending my love and condolence to you all.
May 27, 2026The most incredibly kind woman. So dearly missed. To the entire family, please know you haven’t left my thoughts and i am so sorry for your loss. Xx
May 27, 2026Sending all my love to you – the Den Bestens, Days, Rowleys, and all the rest of your family. Pam was a wonderful and extremely generous lady. My condolences to you all xx
May 27, 2026Sending you and your family hugs. Jan and Mark
May 27, 2026Warmest condolences n biggest huuugsss full of love 😘🙏
May 27, 2026I am so very sad to hear of Pam’s passing she was such a beautiful person, I will miss our catch up’s Pam, thinking of Maryke and all the family. xxx
May 27, 2026So sorry to hear this sad news , our condolences to Neil and family. Beautiful lady who will be missed by many 💐
May 27, 2026Deepest sympathy to Pam’s family, my thoughts are with you all. Pam was a lovely vivacious lady.
May 27, 2026Sending the whole family all my love and cuddles. She was such a gorgeous and loving person, which lives on through the beautiful family she created. Sending so much love particularly to Loz, Kayla, Lil and Wally ❤️
May 27, 2026Tanya, my heart goes out to you and your family during this incredibly tough time ❤️. Your mum’s memory will live on through all the love and laughter you shared 🩷
May 27, 2026
Ritato neal and all the family thinking of you all with all my love robyn humphrey
May 27, 2026Dear Neil & Family
May 27, 2026
Thinking of you all at this very sad time.
Love from Beryl Farmer & FamilyA beautiful person who give so much of herself to others. My Teacher, Mentor, Volunteer and Friend. I will be forever grateful for the lessons, time and friendship given to me. Deepest condolences to the family. RIP Pam, you will be missed.
May 27, 2026This sorrow suddenly sunk in and leaves only a memory of how it was.
Wishing you all much strength .Corrie en Gerard
May 27, 2026So sorry for your lost
May 27, 2026To Yennie and family
I am sorry sorry for your loss and wish I could take this pain away you are going through
I never got to met Pam but I can see the caring and amazing person Yennie is and can see she has been raised by a wonderful caring lady.Lots of love Yennie
May 27, 2026I was so shocked and saddened to hear of the loss of your beautiful mum. I pray that the Lord comfort you all in this trying time. It’s so hard losing a parent. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and especially for your dad.
May 28, 2026To Neil, Yenni, Jamie, Jett and Hudson.
We are sorry for your tragic loss and our thoughts are with you all.
I will cherish all the memories of working with Pam in Aged Care over the years.
RIP Pam
Deepest sympathy Jenny, Derek and Family.
May 28, 2026Dear Neil, saddened to see that your beloved Pam has passed away. We send our deepest condolences to you, and your family.
May 28, 2026
Sending our love to you all.
Jolanda & Brian Grieve.Sending heartfelt condolences to you all on the loss of your beautiful wife and mother.
May 28, 2026
From Donna, Gloria, Ron and Gerry VandegeetEven though it was almost 23 years ago that I experienced the kindness of the family Den Besten when backpacking in your country, Pam and Neil and all the others welcomed us into their homes and lives and treated us as part of the family. The world has lost a wonderful and loving woman, and I wish you all the love & strength in these difficult times.
May 28, 2026Maryke sad to hear about the passing of your mum. My condolences to you and your family at this hard time. Thinking of you and your family.
May 29, 2026Ik hou van jou, sending all my love to your family and prayers for Opa and his recovery
May 29, 2026
This is such a horrible time and I am sending all my lovepam was such a fantastic boss at hazelwood house taught us so much in aged care so sorry for the family we loved you pammie
May 30, 2026So Sad to hear this Pam was such a beautiful person to work with at my time at Fearn Training students and staff loved her. Thinking of you all
Toni Hoch
May 31, 2026One of the most wonderful ladies who mentored me at mums group. I will always remember your kindness and love especially on days that were tough. She never once stopped from sharing knowledge with any of us. Lots of love and care for all the family at this time.
May 31, 2026All our love and hugs to Pam’s family on the tragic loss of this special lady. Thinking of you all ❤️
June 2, 2026What a terrible shock and sad loss to your family. My heartfelt love and condolences to you all.
June 3, 2026
Thinking of you all and hope you can draw strength from each other at this sad time of losing dear Pam.
Much love Meredith, one of Pam’s cousins 🙏🙏❤️❤️We will miss our tante Pam. You were loved. Our deepest condolences ome Nelis, Tanya, Maryke, Anne Marie and Yennie. Love Coriena and Family. Tennessee USA
June 3, 2026We never thought, in our wildest dreams, that our very dear friend from many years ago, has passed away. Absolutely tragic. An extremely heartbreaking time for all the family.
Pam was an amazing neighbour and friend, we had a lot of fun together. Neil and my husband Nigel had an ongoing Chess game set up, very humorous; they both enjoyed the challenge! Pam and I found it very amusing.We loved you all then and we do now❤️
June 3, 2026
Be strong DenBestens.
Pam will forever be watching over you all.
She has been an outstanding Mum and friend to so many😇Such a devastating loss. We are thinking of you all at this very sad time.
June 4, 2026
Tim, Suzi, Zane & Jade xThe world has lost one of the most caring, loving, unjudgemental , bubbly most beautiful women, I have had the honour of knowing. A devoted mother and grandmother and wife , who was everything to her family . An angel on earth. Love to all her beautiful family.
June 4, 2026
Love from Sonia, Ian , Jesse and Jayke StockdaleTo Neil, Yennie, Maryke, Tania, AnnMarie and families, sending love to you all. Memories of a beautiful and kind lady who adored her family and being surrounded by them. May your happy memories with Pam bring you warmth and comfort in the quiet moments. Meg, Travis and family x
June 4, 2026Sending love to you Tania Brian Neil and family Thoughts are with you all From Val Brand and family
June 7, 2026Ahhh thankyou Pammie for the warmth n goodness you shared. Such a pleasure to help you reach goals, diligent and positive. My warmest condolences to you girls and you Dad. The greater the love the greater the loss. You will survive this heartache because she is part of every cell in your bodies, her teachings and love part of what makes you you. Biiiggest huuugsss full of love 😊🙏
June 8, 2026My sincere condolences to the entire family. Hold tight to your memories.
June 8, 2026To the family Den besten our deepest symphaty with the passing of you beautifull mother and wife
June 9, 2026
We only met again last year at the dutch festival
Oh Nelis we hebben een traantje gelaten toen we het hoorde veel sterkte jongen veel liefs aan jullie allemaal van and John Thomas