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How to Write a Eulogy
A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral or memorial service in memory of a loved one that has died. A eulogy can be as simple as a recollection of memories or events and can include details about the family, friends, career, interests and achievements of your loved one and even some of their favorite songs, quotes or poems.
Delivering a eulogy is an honor and allows the funeral attendees to remember the deceased and possibly even learn something new about them. It's an opportunity to celebrate the life of your loved one and to remember who they were, what they did and what they enjoyed most about life.
Recall your memories of the deceased and your relationship with them - where and how you met and stories and memories of what you did and shared together. Consider the chronological history of events in the life of the person and consult with close family and friends for additional information. Some memories and events to provide inspiration and consider for inclusion in the eulogy are:
- Birth and age
- Parents and grandparents
- Growing up - childhood, adolescence
- Siblings and close relationships with friends and relatives
- Marriage
- Children
- Education, career and employment
- Places lived
- Achievements and accomplishments
- Interests and hobbies
- Memories from children and/or grandchildren or other close family and friends
- Favourite quote, song verse, or poem
When you've completed writing your eulogy speech, read it aloud to yourself and practise and familiarise yourself with it. If it's possible and you're inclined, rehearse the speech in front of a friend or family member. Get some feedback in response to your speech and its effectiveness and revise where appropriate.
Even if you're a confident public speaker a eulogy can be a difficult speech to deliver. Remember to take your time, make eye contact and pause whenever you need to. Find someone willing to take over your eulogy should you become unable to deliver it. Provide them with a copy of your speech prior to the funeral service. Remember it's okay to be emotional during the eulogy and take your time to compose yourself.